True Romance - an existential mirage

Well all of us see the different kinds of colour, fantasy and romance woven into the tapestry of Hindi films by Yash Raj Films every year. Well life is not always like that. I am taking the time to blog this because of two friends. Well, they met up while we were in training. Training that would help us enhance our careers, training that would define what we would be doing in the future. (Tsk tsk you two, you should have been concentrating on the training. But well since they were smart enough they got through the system.) Well to get back to the matter. They met, they fell in love and they decided to have a future.......together. Now in one of my previous blogs, I had posed a question to whether there was still true romance in the world? It's not like as if they had a whirlwind romance (not that I would know). But some how they stuck it through, they defined their lives for themselves and they got married a few days ago. Because of them, I still believe that somewhere in this world true romance does exist and you guys just proved it to me. You guys are the greatest example been set to me. Congrats Kannan and Shiks. Here's wishing you the best of luck from the bottom of my heart!!!!!!!!

Friendship - a curious insight

Yesterday I was talking to a friend. She was wondering why i called her up after all this time. I mean, she's married and all and she was wondering this because we were not in the same class or anything at college. There was nothing common between us except that we had a common friend, whom at point was romantically linked with her. Somehow I get the feeling that she thought that I was trying to spy on her for my friend. Well, that's not the reason at all. Her break up with him was none of my concern and this does not imply that I should also break my tie of friendship. She was telling me a story also yesterday on the phone which goes like this:

"Once I was asked to dream that I was going through a forest. During this I was asked what sort of trees I would like in the forest. I told the concerned person that I would like to see huge, eucalyptus trees. Then I happened to chance on a rough road which took me to a wooden shack. As I was reaching the shack, I happened to chance upon an old rusted key. "

Upto this point I was following the narrative of my friend. Now the person telling her about this dream asked her," Would you keep the key?" Now since this key was also hypothetically posed to me, I thought, " Yes sure, why not? What harm does it create. It might turn out to be an asset later on". My friend's take was that the key would turn to be a liability later on. Now the person told her that the old key signified her realtionships with her friends. She was a person who did not make much of the relationships with her friends whereas even though I never valued it, I thought that it would be an asset later on during the jouney of life. Now her justification in to the key being a liabilty was that girls ( in India) do not hav pockets and hence there is a high chance of losing it from one's hands and holding it would also being uncomfortable after a period of time as in her lifetime, she has lost a lot of stuff while carrying it in her hand. Now that got me wondering. " Is this with everything we do in our life. Are we uncomfortable with holding something in our hands, like maybe another person's hand?" It might be because man as a being does not want to share in other's despair, but would definitely share in their happiness. This is a sort of behaviour in which man always tries to forget his and other's despairs. It could be an attempt to always be optimistic and not dwell on the pessimistic mode of life. But these are our friends we are talking about. This is getting heavy now. So I am signing off on that thought.

Romance - a dying relationship???

If I had to live my life without you near me
The days would all be empty
The nights would seem so long
With you I see forever oh so clearly
I might have been in love before
But it never felt this strong

Our dreams are young
And we both know they'll take us
Where we want to go

(Chorus 1)
Hold me now
Touch me now
I don't want to live without you

(Chorus 2)
Nothing's gonna change my love for you
You ought know by now how much I love you
One thing you can be sure of
I'll never ask for more than your love

(Chorus 3)
Nothing's gonna change my love for you
You ought know by now how much I love you
The world may change my whole life
But nothing's gonna change my love for you

If the road ahead is not so easy,
Our love will lead the way for us
Like a guiding star
I'll be there for you if you should need me
You don't have to change a thing
I love you just the way you are
So come with me and share the view
I'll help you see forever too

Yesterday I was feeling pretty bored as there was no electricity from around 12 at noon to 1930. So somehow in between I switched on the radio. I happened to stumble upon Radio City 91 FM and there was a program called "Me, You and a Girl named Sue". Some how the program was interesting and it was playing English tracks. Those old golden tracks. And I happened to hear this song - one of my old favourites. Now somehow or the other I believe myself to be a romantic. Flowers, gifts, thinking of how to make one's love's day special etc.. still seem to me to be the epitome of true romance. But I have to warn you, I've never been romantically involved at all, so well this is why maybe I still live and believe in a fantasy romance. When I was listening to this song, the first thing that striked me was, " Does such romance exist?. Is there such a thing like true love?" In this age of one night stands, promiscuous sex, live in relation ships and stuff does there exist something like true love? People driven by carnal instincts, a basic animal instinct of satisying a need of the body. Is there such a thing as everlasting romance? The media, the world around us is filed of incest, lust and such. Couples in a relationship refuse to get married as they feel they will get grounded, they will lose their allure and charm in the singles market. It is truly a sad situation. But whenever I hear these lyrics "Hold me now, Touch me now, I don't want to live without you" the romantic within me believes that some where there still lies a mirage of such emotions in this world.